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Sunday, 10 November 2013

What Is The Holy Spirit’s Role In Worship?

Many “worship services” are held, but worship doesn't always happen. One reason is that we sometimes fail to allow the Holy Spirit to fulfill his proper role in worship. In honoring God the Father and lifting up Christ, we also must be careful to give proper place to the Holy Spirit.

God’s Word says that the Holy Spirit is “the Spirit of Jesus” (Acts 16:7) and “the spirit of our God” (I Corinthians 6:11). He was involved in the creation of the world (Genesis 1:2). He brought us the Bible (2 Peter 1:21). The Holy Spirit caused the Virgin Mary to conceive (Luke 1:35). He guides us into truth (John 16:13), convicts us of sin (John 16:8), performs miracles (Acts 8:39), and intercedes with God for us (Romans 8:26). He assures us that we belong to God as he “speaks to us deep in our hearts” (Romans 8:16 NLT).

The Holy Spirit is a living gift to all believers and is the divine source of spiritual power and ministry (John 7:37-39; Acts 11:16-17; Romans 5:5). Excellent music cannot substitute for the Spirit’s power in worship. Eloquent speaking cannot replace the power of the Spirit in a person’s heart.

Authentic Christian worship happens at a spiritual level. Worship happens when the Holy Spirit in us rises to magnify the Almighty, giving the Father the honor he deserves and lifting up his Son, Jesus. Worship leaders may spend hours planning a service—seeking the Spirit’s guidance all along the way—but when the time comes to enter into worship, leaders and congregation alike must allow the Spirit to control the service. The Word says, “Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit, says the LORD” (Zechariah 4:6).

As you strive to give the proper role in worship to the Holy Spirit, be sure to remember these three things:

First, the Holy Spirit is our teacher. The Bible says, “the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you” (John 14:26). As our teacher, the Spirit’s primary tool is the Scripture, giving understanding of its truth to those with faith. The Life Application Bible Commentary says, “Through learning about Christ’s life, we can understand (more) about how wonderful God is and what he is really like.” The Holy Spirit leads us to God’s truth “which in other ages was not made known unto the sons of men, as it is now revealed unto his holy apostles and prophets by the Spirit, that the Gentiles should be fellow heirs, and of the same body, and partakers of his promise in Christ by the gospel” (Ephesians 3:5-6 KJV).

Further, God accomplishes his work in us through the Holy Spirit. Jesus said the Holy Spirit is the one who reveals the truth about sin—to unbelievers so they can turn to Christ and to believers so we can be used by God for his purposes: “When he comes, he will convict the world of guilt in regard to sin and righteousness and judgment” (John 16:8). The Holy Spirit allows us to live in God’s power: “The Holy Spirit will give you life that comes from Christ Jesus and will set you free from sin and death” (Romans 8:2 CEV). As Christ died for us when we could not save ourselves, the Holy Spirit communicates with God in a way that also is beyond our ability: “The Spirit also helps us in our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words” (Romans 8:26 NASB). The Holy Spirit also transforms us from within: “As the Spirit of the Lord works within us, we become more and more like him and reflect his glory even more (2 Corinthians 3:18 NLT).

Finally, the Holy Spirit is the real worship leader. Worship is allowing God to take center stage in our lives—wherever we are. When we worship together, we surrender the experience to the will of the One who alone is worthy of worship. Authentic worship is that which occurs “by the Spirit of God” (Philippians 3:3). God is glorified in worship when the Holy Spirit reveals God’s truth to us: “He will bring glory to me by taking from what is mine and making it known to you” (John 16:14).

Friday, 18 October 2013

Vanil Sangeetham Mannithil - Christian Devotional Song

Vaanil Sangeetham mannithil Santhoshm
Swargamm thurannu suvisheshavumay
Gloria.. In excelsis devuz

Sarvacharacharavum sakala janaavaliyum
Moksham pulkuvaan naadhan vannithaa
Bandhitaraam janam peeditharaayavar
Paapikalevarum saanthi nukarnnidum
Navya sandeshamithaa thannoo.. rakshakanaay
(Vaanil Sangeetham)

Saravarum kaarthirunna daivasuthan mishihaa
Mochanamemekuvaan paaril vaasamaay
Daiva samaanathayum swargga mahaaprabhayum
Kaivedinjee mahiyil niranjanavanaay
Marthya swaroopuvumaay vannoo. pulkkootil
(Vaanil Sangeetham)

Wednesday, 16 October 2013

Who Is a Christian?

A couple of billion people on the planet all claim to be Christians, but their beliefs, doctrines and practices vary widely. What does being a Christian mean? Let's take a quick look at what the Bible says a Christian is.
The word Christian is used three times in the New Testament (Acts 11:26; 26:28; 1 Peter 4:16). 

Followers of Jesus Christ were first called "Christians" in Antioch (Acts 11:26) because they believed in Christ and followed His example. The word was initially used by their detractors in a derogatory sense, but believers embraced the term as a badge of honor.

While the first-century Christians did follow the teachings, practices and example of Jesus Christ at that time, since then the term has virtually lost its meaning—as it's usually not accompanied by the same way of life and understanding. Today many claim to be Christians yet don't really follow Jesus' teachings.

Tuesday, 15 October 2013

Malankara Orthodox Qurbana Prayers and songs

Nin danam njan anubhavichu with lyrics


Nin danam njan anubhavichu
Nin sneham njan ruchicharinju

Yesuvae en daivamae
Neeyennum mathiyaayavan (2)

Yesu enniku cheytha
Nanmmakal orthidumbol
Nanni konden manam paadidumae
Sthothra gaanathin pallavikal

Yesuvae en

Daivamae ninte sneham
Ethra naal thalli neekki
Annu njan anyanaay anadhanaay
Aennal enno njan dhanyanaay

Yesuvae en

Ee jeevan poyennalum
Ennikkathil bharamilla
Ente aathmavinu nithyajeevan
Yesu ennike orukkiyallo

Yesuvae en

Nithyatha orthidumbol-en
Hrrithadam aanandhikkum
Swargeeya santhosha jeevitham
Viswasakkannal njan kandidunnu

Yesuvae en 

Sunday, 13 October 2013

What Happens After Death?

For the entire existence of mankind, we have struggled with the question, "What happens after death?" Our answer to this dilemma has great implications for our life here on earth. Although many avoid the issue, we must sooner or later address the question. There are many competing answers to this question.

Atheists believe that at death one ceases to exist. There is no afterlife or eternal soul that continues in eternity. All there is to look forward to is our inevitable death, the future death of mankind, and the universe. It is in the face of this future that the atheist must seek to find meaning and purpose for his own existence.

The Eastern and New Age religions that hold to a pantheistic worldview teach that one goes through an endless cycle of reincarnation until the cycle is broken and the person becomes one with the divine. What form a person becomes in the next life depends on the quality of life lived in the previous life. When one unites with the divine, he ceases to exist as an individual, but becomes part of the divine life force, like a drop of water returning to the ocean.

Those who hold to the animistic or tribal religions believe that after death the human soul remains on the earth or travels to join the departed spirits of the ancestors in the underworld, also called the realm of the shadows. For eternity they wander in darkness, experiencing neither joy nor sorrow. Some of the spirits of the deceased may be called upon to aid or torment those on earth.

Islam teaches that at the end of history, God will judge the works of all men. Those whose good deeds outweigh their bad deeds will enter into paradise. The rest will be consigned to hell. The Koran teaches that in paradise men will be drinking wine and entertained by heavenly maidens and that they may take several of these maidens for their wives.

Most worldviews must accept their belief in the afterlife on untested faith, but the Christian hope is sure for two reasons; the resurrection of Christ and the testimony of God's Word. The Bible gives us the true view of what happens after death. However, many Christians have a misunderstanding of the afterlife. Some believe that they become one of the angels, others believe they go into a state of "soul sleep," while others believe they will be floating on clouds playing harps. In this article, we will examine some popular misconceptions of what lies beyond the grave and perceive what the Bible teaches.

Christians can be assured that death is not something to be feared. Instead, at death we arrive home in heaven. To live means we exist in a foreign country. Death has lost its sting and now is a victory through the resurrection of Jesus our Lord.

If God is Good, Why is Life So Unfair?

                                Psalm 73 "If God Is Good, Why Is Life So Unfair?

On April 20th of this year Missionary Veronica ``Roni’’ Bowers, 35, and her 7-month-old daughter, Charity, seated in her lap, were killed by a single bullet when the jet fired on the Cessna plane they were riding in. The Peruvian Air-force had shot at the plane because it mistakenly thought that it was carrying drugs and drug dealers. Bowers’ husband, Jim, 38, and their 6-year-old son, Cory, survived the attack without serious injury. The pilot, missionary Kevin Donaldson, 42, was seriously injured by gunfire to his legs, but was able to crash-land the plane on the Amazon. The Bower’s family had been faithful missionaries to the area for over a dozen years. 

It is hard to understand why things like this happen especially when you consider that in all likelihood many drug dealers and criminals flew that night without a problem. It makes you wonder: "If God Is Good, Why Is Life So Unfair?"

Illustration: Another situation which is difficult to understand is the one our good friend David Fee experienced recently. David is a faithful Christian and a kind-hearted man despite being born blind and then later losing a significant amount of his hearing. David had apparently become involved in a romantic relationship with a young Christian friend named Denise of who was also blind. Such relationships are certainly more difficult to start or pursue when one is blind so we were all happy to hear of David’s blessing. If anybody deserved such a blessing it was David. David moved north recently to continue to pursue this relationship and only a few weeks later Denise was discovered dead in her home from unknown causes. It seems to make no sense, especially when we consider that so many unbelievers and wicked people live to old age. 

These two situations and many others like them in our lives can lead to confusion, anger and doubt about God’s Goodness. We can begin to doubt the value of living faithfully for God. We start to ask "Is Life Fair?" When we ask that question were not really asking a philosophical question about the nature of life, but a theological one concerning the nature of God. We are in essence questioning God’s goodness and fairness. We realize that the Bible teaches that God exist, that He is in control, and that He is good. If God is in control and He is good why then is it our experience that life is not fair. It seems that often good things happen to bad people, while bad things happen to good people. "If God Is Good, Why Is Life So Unfair?"

Ethretholam Nadathiya Daivame - Christian devotional song with Lyrics


ഇത്രത്തോളം നടത്തിയ ദൈവമേ
ഇനിയും നടത്തിടുവാന്‍ ശക്തനെ
ഇദ്ധരയില്‍ നന്ദിയോടെന്നെന്നും
നിന്നെ വാഴ്ത്തിപ്പാടും ഞാന്‍

മരുയാത്രയില്‍ ഞാന്‍ മരുപ്പച്ച തേടി
മാറത്തടിച്ച നേരം
മന്നതന്നു പോഷിപ്പിച്ച ജീവ നാഥനെ
വാഴ്ത്തിപ്പാടിടും ഞാന്‍

പാപത്താല്‍ മുറിവേറ്റു പാതയില്‍ വീണപ്പോള്‍
പാലിപ്പാന്‍ വന്നവനെ
എന്‍ ജീവ കാലമെല്ലാം നിന്‍ മഹത് സ് നേഹത്തെ
വാഴ്ത്തിപ്പാടിടും ഞാന്‍

സ്വര്‍ഗീയ നാടതില്‍ ഭക്തരെ ചേര്‍ക്കുവാന്‍
വേഗം വരുന്നവനെ
ഇത്ര വലിയ രക്ഷ തന്ന ഇമ്മാനുവേലെ
വാഴ്ത്തിപ്പാടിടും ഞാന്‍

Saturday, 12 October 2013

Kaanayile kalyana naalil Nice christian devotional song


Kaanayile kalyana naalil .
Kalbharaniyile vellam mundhiri neeray (2)
Vismayathil muzhuki lokarannu
Vismrithiyil thudarum lokaminnu
Mahima kaatti yeshunaadhan. (Kaanayile..)

Kaalyikal meyum pulthozhuthil
Marthyanay janmekiyeeshan (2)
Mezhuthiri naalam poleyennum
Velichameki jagathinennum (2)
Ahaa..njan etra bhagyavaan.(2)
Yeshu en jeevane (Kaanayile..)

Oomaye soukhyamakkiyidayan
Andhanu kaazhchayeki naadhan (2)
Paarithil sneha soonam vithari
Kaalvariyil naadhan paadhamidari..
Ahaa..njan etra bhagyavaan(2)
Yeshu en jeevane. (Kaanayile..)

What is temptation? Can we beat it?

A temptation is a thought or desire to do something wrong. No one can avoid the temptations come, but you do not have to submit to them. As the wise old adage: “You can not prevent birds from flying over your head but you can avoid making a nest in your head.” That is, you can not prevent the evil of human nature tells you and try things with their evil thoughts, but you can avoid submitting to it. We have several examples of temptation in the bible, it is indeed something that we are all subject. Eve was tempted in Eden. Several prophets have been tried (and won with some merit). Many people condemn themselves and feel bad because they thought or were tempted with sinful thoughts, but even Jesus was tempted in all things like us. (Hebrews 4:15, Matthew 4:1-10) It is no sin when evil will try to do something, sin is that you submit to temptation and achieve it! Learn one thing: the best way to resist temptation and get rid of negative thoughts is to read the Bible, pray and think of the Lord Jesus. Rather than think of the evil, we must have good thoughts, uplifting and encouraging! “Whatever is true, honest, just, pure, lovely and good, that’s what you should think!” (Phil. 4:8) Isaiah says, “keep him in perfect peace him whose mind is stayed on Thee because he trusts in you” (Isaiah 26:3) If you keep your mind on Jesus did not have time to think about the distractions lying Enemy! (The recipe is to overcome discouragement, too!)

Friday, 11 October 2013

Kashtangal Saramilla Beautiful malayalam christian Devotional Song

Kastangal Saramilla is a beautiful Malayalam christian devotional song


Kashtangal saramilla
Kannuneer saramilla
Nithya thejassin khanamorthidumbol
Nodynerathekkulla kashtangal saramilla
Kannuneer saramilla

Preeyante varavin dhwani muzhangum
Prakkalepole nam parannuyarum
Prannante priyanam mannavalanil
prapikkum swargeeya manniyarayil

Mannavalan varum vanameghathil
Mayangan eniyum samayamilla
Madhyakashathingal mahaldhinathil
Mannavatiyay nam parannupokum

Jathikal jathiyodethirthidumbol
Jagathil peedakal perukeedumbol
Jeevitha bharangal vardhichidumbol
Jeevante nayakan vegam vannidum

Yudhavum kshamavum bhookambangalum
Yudhathin shruthiyum kelkkunnillayo
Yisrayelin Dhaivam ezhunnallunne
Yeshuvin janame orunguka nam

Saturday, 5 October 2013

The Personality of the Holy Spirit

Jesus promises He will pray His Father gives us another Comforter who will abide with us forever (John 14:16). The Comforter Jesus is speaking of is His Holy Spirit.

It's important to look closely at every word written in Scripture. Failing to do so will leave us with incomplete meaning and sometimes, inaccurate understanding.

Notice Jesus says: “another” Comforter. This tells us Jesus is identifying Himself to his disciples as their “Comforter”, their helper, their “paraklete”.

Jesus was promising He would not leave us alone, He would send us someone just like Him. Scripture clearly reveals to us the personality of Jesus. Jesus was perfect in every way. The personality of Jesus is the personality of God and the personality of God's Holy Spirit.

God's Holy Spirit came to take the place of Jesus on earth. An important part of the purpose of God's Holy Spirit is the revealing of Jesus, the Word of God, to the world.

God's Holy Spirit is presently demonstrating and doing as Jesus did on earth. In essence, God's Holy Spirit is the continuation of the Word of God to mankind, the continuation of Jesus‘ ministry on earth.
Jesus revealed the Father and Jesus was God with us. The Holy Spirit is revealing Jesus. He is God with us, and He is God in us. He is the next, after Jesus, in God's progressive revelation of the redemption of mankind. He will always point us toward Jesus, our Savior, our Lord.

Holy Spirit is God with us, God in us, and He is the revealing of God to us and through us. When we allow God's Holy Spirit freedom for ministry through us the Power of the kingdom of God is manifested through man and to man.

Someone would ask, “what is the will of God in my life?” The answer is simple. God wants everyone of us to fully surrender our selves to Him giving Him complete freedom in doing as He wills through us.
In John chapters 14, 15, and 16 Jesus uses the word “Parakletos” in reference to His Holy Spirit. In doing this Jesus is telling us His Holy Spirit is our Comforter, our Advocate, our Intercessor, our Teacher, our Friend, our Guide, our Counselor, our Strengthener, our Leader, our Helper, and our Partner. Jesus did not leave us alone!

The Spirit of Jesus has continued the ministry of Jesus on earth and relates to His disciples just as Jesus did. His Holy Spirit could not do this unless He was a living Person. The Holy Spirit of God is a living Divine Person.

Tuesday, 30 July 2013

God sees all

Do not try to hide anything from God and Jesus, God and Jesus, and everyone can see and if you can hide something from people that remember that nothing ever will be able to hide from God, God sees and knows everything, every step you take, even the thought of what is of God and Jesus may hide something is unacceptable! God is always watching your actions and always rightly assesses them for your every act should be deliberate and before every action ask yourself, “Is it to please God and Jesus?” and if everyone would ask themselves about, and to find the right answer that in life people will make a lot less wrong and wicked deeds, for God sees all and on how you live your life on earth, and what actions are making depends on what will happen to you after the Earth life, simply indulge God and Jesus, and follow the right path!

Know that God Exists

If you know that God exists, show it with his life. Live as the will of God and Jesus, do not sin, do good, try to make people around you joy and love, try to never tell anyone not to envy and desire of evil, remember that there is a God, and God, Jesus always look at you and see your actions and your actions will be given to you in life and end of life, so go on the path of God, the path of love and kindness and always bestow love and kindness and it will return to you, do not sin and do not anger God, do not do bad things, his kind and good deeds are you happy about God and Jesus and the gates of heaven will be opened to you, your good deeds will never be forgotten and ignored God and Jesus, always do good and know God and Jesus love you!

Say to God I’m sorry

” Always remember that you can ask God and Jesus for forgiveness and repent of their bad deeds, to realize their actions and turn to God and to Jesus in repentance and God and Jesus certainly forgive you if your repentance will be sincere, God and Jesus is always with you and always support you if in your heart there is love for God and Jesus, and love for others, if your heart is not evil, and if you sincerely repent of their bad deeds, remember, be sure to repent with all your heart, and turn to God and Jesus and all will be well, in your heart will be clean and bright, and your heart will become warmer and happier repent of their bad deeds, and purify your heart.

Wedding photography

Wedding photography is the photography of activities relating to weddings. It encompasses photographs of the couple before marriage (for announcements, portrait displays, or thank you cards) as well as coverage of the wedding and reception (sometimes referred to as the wedding breakfast in non-US countries). It is a major commercial endeavor that supports the bulk of the efforts for many photography studios or independent photographers.

Types of wedding photography

There's a lot of terminology, and in some cases jargon, used by wedding photographers to describe different types and styles of work. Much of this terminology can be quite useful, but some just seems to be used for marketing purposes more than anything else. Often it is simply assumed that future brides and grooms will understand what these phrases mean, and we all know the famous saying that assuming makes an ass out of 'u' and 'me', so here are a few explanations.

Artistic Wedding Photography

This is the hardest term to tie down in a single definition. I would suggest that an artistic-style wedding photograph is one that you could imagine people hanging on their wall even if they didn't know the bride or couple in the picture. Sometimes this style makes use of effects such as sepia colouration, or darkened corners (vignetting) etc.

Candid wedding Photography

Candid photography attempts to photograph the subject without them noticing. This may also be referred to as the 'fly on the wall' approach.

Contemporary Wedding Photography

This is another tricky one to define. It could be regarded as shooting in whatever style(s) are currently most fashionable. Alternatively, contemporary wedding photography could be said to take aspects from all the other key styles of wedding photography. Contemporary photography and fashion-style photography are often used as interchangeable terms.

Documentary Wedding Photography

Generally, documentary photographers seek to convey the way things are, as objectively as possible, and without interference. This term is used less in relation to wedding photography these days, since it has largely been replaced with the more glamorous term 'Photojournalistic'. Outside the wedding field, 'documentary photography' arguably implies an in depth photographic study, without much text accompaniment, whereas 'reportage' implies a larger degree of accompanying text. This distinction becomes largely meaningless in relation to wedding photography.

Fashion-style Wedding Photography

This is the aspirational style that you will see in the magazines. It is usually semi-directed, choosing the best backdrops and lighting and then partially posing the bride or couple too look 'natural'.

Formal Wedding Photography

Formal photographs are the carefully arranged group shots where everyone looks towards the camera. You wouldn't want your entire wedding photographed like this, but your parents and grandparents will probably expect a few shots of this sort.

Magazine-style Layouts

This refers to book or album designs that use several images over a page or double page spread to create dynamically designed layouts, often telling miniature stories from different parts of the day.

Photojournalistic Wedding Photography

This style of wedding photography attempts to tell the story of your day without interference or direction. This term has largely replaced the term 'documentary wedding photographer' because 'documentary' implies (rightly or wrongly) a more objective, warts-and all-type of approach, whereas the 'photojournalistic' approach will tell the story of your day whilst remaining entirely flattering. This type of photography is often black and white.

Reportage Wedding Photography

This term is almost completely interchangeable with 'photojournalistic', but arguably sounds more up-market.

Spot-colour Photographs

This refers to images in which only part of the image has been left in colour, with the rest of the photograph having been converted to sepia or black and white. Overuse of this effect should be avoided as it can leave a book or album looking 'gimmicky' and may cause your wedding photography to look dated before its time.

Traditional Wedding Photography

This phrase refers to the oldest style of posed photography, dating back to times when camera exposures were several seconds, or even minutes, long and subjects needed to be carefully arranged and stay very still. Whilst this style is not the most fashionable at the moment, family members inevitably want some of this sort of imagery to keep. These formal/staged shots ensure that the happy couple are pictured with all of the key groups of family, friends, bridesmaids and best men etc.

If these loose definitions help you convey your tastes to your wedding photographer, then great! Most photographers now shoot a mixture of the styles above anyway, so I would suggest that you don't get too bogged down in terminology, and instead go with a photographer you feel you will get on well with, and whose work you love!

Sacred Rituals of an Indian Christian Wedding

Christian weddings are known for their sobriety and elegance. The bride’s white wedding gown, the flower decorations at the church, the gorgeous bridesmaids and the cute flower girls, all together make a Christian wedding a treat to the eye.
The Christian weddings in India are a happy blend of Indian and Western customs. The Indian Christians, while adhering to their Indian culture have incorporated some western customs as well. This amalgamation of Indo-Western customs is visible in the wedding rituals. Here are the main traditions and rituals of an Indian Christian wedding.

Pre Wedding Rituals

The engagement ceremony: The first function of the marriage is the engagement ceremony. It is generally hosted by the bride’s parents and is a gathering comprising of only close family members and friends. The couple exchange rings on this occasion. The engagement is announced in their local churches as well.
Bachelor and bachelorette parties: It is a trend that is getting popular in India. The friends and brothers of the groom host a bachelor’s party for him. This party celebrates the groom’s last days as a bachelor. On the other hand, a similar party is organised for the bride by her friends and sisters. This is known as the bachelorette party.
The Roce Ceremony: This ceremony also known as Haldaat relates to applying the paste of tumeric and sandalwood on both the bride and the groom. Haldaat ceremony is prominent among the North Indian Christians. The Haldaat ceremony of North India is known as Roce. Among the Christians of western and southern India like in the state of Goa, coconut paste is applied on both the bride and the groom instead of tumeric and sandalwood paste.

Wedding Rituals

Reception of the bride: On the wedding day, the bride arrives at the wedding venue in a car sent by the groom. His best man receives the bride and escorts her inside. Later, the father of the bride escorts her down the aisle on the other side of which, her groom patiently awaits her. He hands over his daughter to the groom and showers his blessings.

 Exchange of vows: Both the bride and the groom write their own wedding vows which they read out to each other at the time of the wedding. The vows are messages of love and respect that they have for each other.

The 'I Do': After reading the wedding vows, the priest asks both the bride and the groom if ‘they agree to love and cherish each other in health and in sickness for as long as they shall live?’ The consenting couples reply to this by saying ‘I Do’. The priest then pronounces them husband and wife.
The Indian touch: Traditionally, in Indian Christian weddings (especially in south India) the groom places the ‘Thali’ or 'Mangalsutra' around the neck of the bride instead of the giving her a ring. However, the trend of rings is gaining popularity and most couples are going for it now.
The throwing of the wedding bouquet: After the wedding ceremony, the bride tosses her wedding bouquet and all the unmarried girls try to catch it. It is said that whoever does, gets married next.

Post Wedding Rituals

Reception: After the wedding, a reception is held where the bride and groom perform a rehearsed ball room dance sequence. This is followed by a family dinner when the wedding cake is cut and toasts are raised for the newlywed couple.


Preparation for Marriage: 10 Things You'll Wish You Knew

As you prepare to enter into marriage, you will need to unscramble and negotiate all kinds of issues between you and your partner. Therefore, your first task is to see if you can unscramble the ten most important principles and ideas related to marriage preparation below. When you are done, Scroll down for the answers and to learn more about how you and your partner can prepare for this exciting event.

1. Three Stages of Marriage

According to researcher and practitioner Jeffrey Larson (2003), most marriages go through at least three general stages of development:
 (1) romantic love; 
(2) disillusionment and distraction
(3) dissolution, adjustment with resignation, or adjustment with contentment.

2. Marriage Myths

"Never go to bed angry at your spouse" or, "If my partner and I have a disagreement, our relationship is doomed!" are just two of the many myths that we can dispel before we ever get married. Sometimes, because we are tired and stressed, the best practice is to settle down and to get some needed rest before we deal with the issue the next morning. Other myths, according to Jeffry Larson (2003), include the following:

•"If my spouse loves me, he should instinctively know what I want and need to be happy,"
•"No matter how I behave, my spouse should love me simply because she is my spouse."
•"I can change my spouse by pointing out his inadequacies, errors, and other flaws."
•"I must feel better about my partner before I can change my behavior toward him."
•"Maintaining romantic love is the key to marital happiness over the life-span for most couples."
•"Marriage should always be a 50-50 partnership."
•"Marriage can fulfill all of my needs."

3. Marital Satisfaction

Larson and Holman (1994) have identified three general domains of important predictors of marital quality and stability (Note: Marital quality is defined by these authors as "a subjective evaluation of a couple's relationship." Marital stability is defined as "the status of the relationship as intact or nonintact [i.e., separated or divorced])." These domains are (from least predictive of marital quality and stability to most predictive): background and contextual factors, individual traits and behaviors, and couple interactional processes (i.e., traits). Larson calls these three domains the Marriage Triangle. According to Larson (2003), the Marriage Triangle (see below) highlights these three domains and focuses on the interactions between them.

4. Contexts or Environments

Contexts and environments are the settings in which individual and couple traits are developed. These influential contexts are placed at the bottom of the Marriage Triangle because they form the foundation of the development of individual and couple interactional traits. Larson (2003) divides these contexts into two general domains - personal contexts and relationship contexts. According to Larson, personal context characteristics include family-of-origin influences, such as the degree of love and unity in the family in which you grew up, the quality of your parents' marriage, and your degree of autonomy in your family-of-origin. Relationship context refers to the situation or environment in which your relationship currently exists. Examples of relationship context factors include support from in-laws, chronically unresolved marital problems, and stress caused by spending too much time or energy in raising children, dealing with financial problems, and so on.

5. Individual Traits

Individual traits that influence marital satisfaction or dissatisfaction include a person's personality, attitudes, and skills (Larson, 2003). Larson identifies difficulty coping with stress, dysfunctional beliefs (see Marriage Myths above), excessive impulsiveness (e.g., impulsive spending, obsessive compulsive behaviors, etc.), extreme self-consciousness, excessive anger and hostility, untreated depression, and chronic irritability as the major liabilities toward the achievement of marital satisfaction.
Conversely, Larson identifies extroversion (i.e., sociability), flexibility, good self-esteem, assertiveness, commitment, and an ability to love as the major assets toward the achievement of marital satisfaction.

6. Couple Traits

Couple traits that influence marital satisfaction and dissatisfaction include communication (see Happy Talk: Keep Talking Happy Talk) and conflict resolution skills (see 9 Important Skills for Every Relationship) and several other traits specifically pointed out by Larson (2003) that include the following:

Cohesion - time spent together compared with time spent apart that leads to a perception and feeling of emotional closeness.

Intimacy - the combination of self-disclosure, affection, sexual relations, and cohesion.
Control or power sharing - "the ability to influence another person to go in the direction you want" . When there is give-and-take and the power and control is equitable and shared, then a feeling of satisfaction generally occurs. When one spouse tends to "exercise too much power or control in decision making", then dissatisfaction can occur.

Consensus - "the degree of agreement you and your partner experience on a variety of marital issues such as proper behavior in public, religious matters, decision making, and displays of affection". Similarly, Larson states that "consensus can be realized in one of three ways in marriage:
(1) you accept and appreciate that you are already similar,
(2) you accept your differences without resentment or despair,
(3) you reach consensus through healthy conflict resolution"

7. Change Yourself First
Douglas A. Abbott (2003) shares three principles that can lead toward greater marital satisfaction:
(1) Change your behavior: Change first; 
(2) Change your attitude; and, 
(3) Change your heart. He also includes three ways to change ourselves first as follows:

Exercise patience with your partner's faults and annoying habits.
Drop the insistence that he or she must change
Take responsibility to change yourself and improve the relationship. The focus becomes you not your partner. You change first.  Assuming there is good will and love between you and your spouse, your partner may then desire to also change. As you act in loving, forgiving, and benevolent ways, your spouse may reciprocate .

8. The Eighty-Twenty Rule

Dr. Abbott's (2003) 80-20 rule was developed from a story he read several years ago called "80 percent I love you, 20 percent I hate you." From this story he concluded, "to avoid over focusing on the spouse's negatives, you can train your mind to focus on the positives. Overlook the few small things(20 percent) that you don't like about your spouse and continually remind yourself of the 80 percent you like"

9. Change Your Heart

Dr. Abbott (2003) cites C. Terry Warner in his article who discussed the following about the need to change our hearts in our relationships:

A Change of Heart - "Without a change of heart whatever we do will carry the smell of manipulative, selfish, or fearful intent, and other people will readily discern it....The self-help movement that began in the latter half of the twentieth century suffers particularly from this flaw, for the personal and interpersonal skills it seeks to cultivate are almost always designed to get us more of what we think we want, rather than to bring about a change of heart". "To the extent that we can come to see others differently, we can undergo a fundamental change, a change in our being, a change of our emotions and attitudes, a change of heart" . "We do not control the timing of a change of heart. We make ourselves available for it by faithfully doing the right things for the right reasons; that much does lie within our control" . "There is no better means of promoting another person's change of heart than allowing our own heart to change"

10. Seek Marital Therapy

Most relationships "get stuck" at some point and they need a little help (sometimes a lot of help) to "get unstuck". Therefore, one of the best ways we can prepare for marriage is to overcome the stigma sometimes associated with seeking marital therapy. Couples who are proactive and who seek therapy early, before their relationship is falling apart, are wise.

Turn to God

When you feel that you have difficulty, please refer to God, pray with all your heart and God and Jesus will help you sure, God and Jesus always hears the prayers of those who sincerely believe the prayers of those who find it difficult and who need help, God and Jesus always close and will always help you superior believe, most importantly from the heart and sincerely turn to God and Jesus. Never give up, never stop praying, remember that your faith and your prayers will always help you, never lose faith, even if you are very hard to remember that God and Jesus will show you the way out of any difficulties and will help you if your faith is strong, if your heart is filled with faith and love for God and Jesus, pray always and never lose your faith, your faith will save you!

Mothers Love

A mother’s love and the love of the mother is very strong and pure love that connects mother and her child, God teaches us that love, Jesus always said, and tells us that we have to take care of his mother and her love for no one can love as a mother and give motherly warmth, nothing in the world can compare to a mother’s love, it is a special and more it can only be the love of God, no matter where you are, no one will never understand you as a mother and God, the Father’s love is also very important in my life but the We will talk about in our next article, now let’s talk about his mother and about how important it is in life and how strong her love.

Every mother can sacrifice his life for the sake of her child because the mother loves her child more than anyone can love. It is no accident when we are always difficult or painful we utter, the mother, or, God,this is because the love of the mother and the love of God is very strong and well developed in man, the mother has a large role in life, she man is born into the world, she feeds and educates, it protects and gives heat, so a mother’s love is different from all others, it is big and strong.

Every mother loves her child no matter what, she always tries to make sure that the child was better and does everything for the welfare of their child, which is not surprising because the mother of his life trying to dedicate a child, unfortunately there are mothers who leave their children and it is very bad, this is a very big sin, no matter what happens you can never leave a child that God gave and trust, what difficulties did not happen, go to church, ask for help but never leave a child whom God has given you, remember that God will help you as would be hard you may be, do not leave your child, because it is a gift of God, and the day will come when you will regret the fact that they left their child and gave it up so never do not do that because it can not be a great gift of life than a child God trusts you and through you is born a new life that is given to you by God and you sin of rejecting the mother is the most positive person in everyone’s life, and nothing can replace a mother’s love and a mother, nothing can replace God, these two emotions are indispensable in life, a woman is given this, be a mother, to bring to light a new life, and it’s awesome love and grace of God and the happiness of every woman.

Monday, 29 July 2013

How to receive Holy Communion

  1. Stand up and step out of your pew to join in the Communion procession. Often an usher helps to oversee this process.

  1. If you are not carrying a child in your arms or a hymnal or worship aid in your hand, it is appropriate to join your hands in front of you in a prayerful position (traditionally over the heart) as you process forward.

  1. Remain standing for the reception of Holy Communion. This is the standard posture for receiving Communion in the United States.

  1. As the person in front of you is receiving Holy Communion, bow your head and shoulders slightly as a sign of reverence toward Our Lord in the Eucharist.

  1. You may receive the Sacred Host either in your hand or on your tongue. The choice is yours.

  1. If you intend to receive the Sacred Host in your hand, extend both hands palm upwards toward the minister, placing one hand directly on top of the other. You should do this as you approach the minister so that it is obvious to the minister that you wish to receive Communion in the hand.

  1. The minister will hold the Sacred Host in front of you and say, “The Body of Christ.” You respond by saying, “Amen.” The minister will then place the Host on your open palm. Do not attempt to grab the Host from the minister with your fingers.

  1. Once the Host has been placed in your hand, step aside (to allow the person behind you to come forward to receive) and immediately consume the Host as you stand facing toward the altar. You should pick up the Host from the palm of your hand with the fingers of your other hand and reverently place the Host in your mouth. Then either join the procession to receive the Precious Blood from the minister holding the chalice or return respectfully to your pew.

  1. If you are going to receive the Sacred Host on your tongue, keep your hands joined over your heart as you approach the minister. After the minister holds the Host in front of you and says The Body of Christ and you respond Amen, tilt your head backwards, close your eyes, open your mouth and stick out your tongue. The minister will then place the Host on your tongue. Once you feel the Host on your tongue, take the Host into your mouth with your tongue and open your eyes. Do not attempt to reach for the Host with your tongue or mouth. Instead, remain still with your eyes closed so that the minister will have no difficulty placing the Host on your tongue.

  1. If you wish to receive the Precious Blood - the choice is yours - bow your head and shoulders slightly as the person before you is receiving from the chalice. Approach the minister with your hands joined reverently over your heart. The minister will hold the chalice in front of you and say, “The Blood of Christ,” to which you respond, “Amen.” The minister will then hand you the chalice. Grasp the chalice firmly with both hands and bring it to your lips, taking care not to spill any of the Precious Blood within. Take a small sip of the Precious Blood and hand the chalice back to the minister who will wipe its rim to prepare it for the next communicant.

  1. After receiving Holy Communion, return reverently to your pew and either sit or kneel for your private prayers.

What to avoid when receiving Holy Communion

  1. Do not feel obligated to receive Holy Communion just because it appears everyone around you is receiving. Receive only if you are properly disposed morally and spiritually and have fasted for at least one hour before receiving. If you are not prepared to receive Holy Communion, simply remain at your place in the pew. That is perfectly acceptable, and no one will judge you or think twice about it.

  1. Do not chew gum in church. There should be nothing in your mouth when you receive Holy Communion.

  1. Do not wait until after you have responded “Amen” to extend your hands toward the minister to receive the Sacred Host in your hand. Also, do not extend your hands when it is your intention to receive Communion on the tongue. The minister should not have to guess whether you want Communion in the hand or on the tongue.

  1. Do not receive the Sacred Host in the hand by extending only one of your hands. Two free hands are necessary for receiving the Sacred Host - one hand to receive the Host, and the other hand to pick it up and place it reverently in your mouth. If you are carrying a child in your arms or a hymnal or worship aid in your hands, you should receive the Sacred Host on the tongue.

  1. Do not take the Sacred Host out of the hand of the minister with your fingers. An important liturgical principle is that the communicant receives rather than takes Holy Communion from the minister. (The only exception to this is when the communicant is a priest.)

  1. Do not fail to respond “Amen” when the minister says either “The Body of Christ” or “The Blood of Christ,” or substitute another expression for it such as “Thank you.” The minister in saying “The Body of Christ” and “The Blood of Christ” is making a declaration of faith about the nature of the Eucharist and the Church which you as the communicant must affirm with your “Amen” before you receive.

  1. Do not forget to bow your head and shoulders slightly as a sign of reverence before receiving the Sacred Host and the Precious Blood. Do not substitute this standard gesture with some other one, such as the sign of the cross or a genuflection.

  1. Do not wait to make your sign of reverence until you are face-to-face the minister. This delays the procession. Make the sign of reverence as the person in front of you is receiving Communion.

  1. After receiving the Sacred Host in your hand, step aside and consume the Host immediately while facing the altar. Do not begin walking back to your pew before consuming the Host.

  1. Do not carry the Host with the intention of dipping it into the Precious Blood. Communicants may not dip the Sacred Host into the chalice for two reasons: first because of the liturgical principle stated above, that the communicant should receive the Precious Blood rather than taking it (in this case, by dipping the Host into it); second because there is danger of spilling some drops of the Precious Blood.

  1. Do not fail to make an act of thanksgiving for the gift of the Eucharist when you return to your pew.

35 Reasons Not To Sin

  1. Because a little sin leads to more sin.
  2. Because my sin invites the discipline of God.
  3. Because the time spent in sin is forever wasted.
  4. Because my sin never pleases but always grieves God who loves me.
  5. Because my sin places a greater burden on my spiritual leaders.
  6. Because in time my sin always brings heaviness to my heart.
  7. Because I am doing what I do not have to do.
  8. Because my sin always makes me less than what I could be.
  9. Because others, including my family, suffer consequences due to my sin.
  10. Because my sin saddens the godly.
  11. Because my sin makes the enemies of God rejoice.
  12. Because sin deceives me into believing I have gained when in reality I have lost.
  13. Because sin may keep me from qualifying for spiritual leadership.
  14. Because the supposed benefits of my sin will never outweigh the consequences of disobedience.
  15. Because repenting of my sin is such a painful process, yet I must repent.
  16. Because sin is a very brief pleasure for an eternal loss.
  17. Because my sin may influence others to sin.
  18. Because my sin may keep others from knowing Christ.
  19. Because sin makes light of the cross, upon which Christ died for the very purpose of taking away my sin.
  20. Because it is impossible to sin and follow the Spirit at the same time.
  21. Because God chooses not to respect the prayers of those who cherish their sin.
  22. Because sin steals my reputation and robs me of my testimony.
  23. Because others once more earnest than I have been destroyed by just such sins.
  24. Because the inhabitants of heaven and hell would all testify to the foolishness of this sin.
  25. Because sin and guilt may harm both mind and body.
  26. Because sins mixed with service make the things of God tasteless.
  27. Because suffering for sin has no joy or reward, though suffering for righteousness has both.
  28. Because my sin is adultery with the world.
  29. Because, though forgiven, I will review this very sin at the Judgment Seat where loss and gain of eternal rewards are applied.
  30. Because I can never really know ahead of time just how severe the discipline for my sin might be.
  31. Because my sin may be an indication of a lost condition.
  32. Because to sin is not to love Christ.
  33. Because my unwillingness to reject this sin now grants it an authority over me greater than I wish to   believe.
  34. Because sin glorifies God only in His judgment of it and His turning of it to good use, never because  it is worth anything on its own.
  35. Because I promised God he would be Lord of my life. 
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